“His Purpose” and Proverbs 31:18

What is the meaning of life?  Why were we put here?  Solomon says, “Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man” (Ecclesiastes 12:13).

The chapter we read from The Power of a Praying Wife was “His Purpose”.

Things that touched me:

  1. Stormie writes, “Generally, we’re here to glorify God and do His will.  How that specifically translates in our lives is unique to each of us.”  We are not cookie cutter Christians who all look, smell, and behave the same way.  We can fulfill our purpose in our own individual style 😉
  2. “A wife can’t put pressure on her husband to be something, but she can pray for him to become it.  She can pray that he be molded according to God’s plan and not anyone else’s.”  We’ve said it before, and I will say it again.  Nagging doesn’t help anything!
  3. Stormie gives us some insight into how to tell if a man is fulfilling his purpose.  She says, “You can always tell when a man is not living in the purpose for which God created him.  You sense his unrest.  You get a feeling something is not quite right, even if you can’t put your finger on what it is.  When you’re around a man who is fulfilling his calling and doing what he was created to do, you’re aware of his inner direction, confidence, and deep security.”  I can’t say I know too many of these men fulfilling what God wants them to do, according to this description.  How about you?
  4. “Whatever God has called your husband to be or do, He also called you to support it and be part of it, if in no other way than to pray, encourage, and help in whatever way possible.”  This is actually the reason why women were created.  Back in the Garden of Eden, while considering Adam being alone, God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” (Genesis 2:18).
  5. In the prayer at the end of this chapter, Stormie prays, “Continue to remind him of what You’ve called him to do and don’t let him get sidetracked with things that are unessential to your purpose.”  We all can be distracted by the trappings of this life.  Let’s pray this for ourselves as well.

I have a true story to share related to helping your husband instead of hindering.  Names have been changed to protect the innocent.

Matilda was beautiful until she got married.  Before she was wed, she carried herself with grace, and she seemed very thoughtful.  She had the inner beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit (1 Peter 3:4).

Admittedly, she has never been outwardly very attractive, but she took care of her modest appearance.  Her hair was brushed and clean.  Her clothes were not flashy but well-kept.

After being joined in matrimony, she changed.  She fought against every decision her husband made.  She demanded her own way.

It’s very possible that she was always this unattractive, but her bad attitude made her less beautiful.  Her hair is not brushed or cleaned.  Her clothes are baggy and frumpy.

The end.

The woman was/is not helping her husband’s purpose.  Sadly at this point, she is dragging him down like a true ball and chain.  She should embrace her purpose as his help meet.

I didn’t find anything in this chapter that I respectfully disagree with.

Proverbs 31:18 “She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.“

Hmmm, she thinks her merchandise is good, huh?  She’s thinking she is hot stuff and better than all of us?  Well, she may be better than all of us, but this is not what the Scripture is saying.  I think she understands that her merchandise is good.  She is confident that what she is doing is right.

Are you confident that what you are doing is right?  Am I?  How can I be sure I am doing the right thing?  The most sure answer is to search the Scriptures.  God’s Word is full of things we should be doing.  In fact, Proverbs 31 is full of things we should be doing.  If you are being obedient to God’s Word, you can be confident that what you are doing is right.

Many seem to think that a Christian woman should be meek and mild, shy, maybe a doormat.  I don’t think that is what the Scriptures say at all.  This woman is not cowering in the corner.  She is a go getter.  Her life is dedicated to her husband and family, but that does not make her of any less value.  In fact, she is greatly honored and valued.  Proverbs 31:10  “Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.”

Her candle doesn’t go out at night?  Again, this lady shows us that she is driven and ambitious.  She gets up early and stays up into the night.  She will not quit until the job is done!

I don’t believe that these Scriptures should make us believe that we can never sleep, if we are a virtuous woman.  Sleeping is not a sin 😉  Also, it is obvious that the Proverbs 31 woman slept some.  After all she must have been in bed to rise (Prov 31:15).

Here are some verses that show that sleep can and should be appreciated:

Psalm 4:8  “I will both lay me down in peace, and sleep: for thou, LORD, only makest me dwell in safety.”

Psalm 127:1-2  “Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.  It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: for so he giveth his beloved sleep.”

Ecclesiastes 5:12  “The sleep of a labouring man is sweet, whether he eat little or much: but the abundance of the rich will not suffer him to sleep.”  I find those verses quite comforting!

While sleeping is not a sin, slothfulness and laziness are.

Proverbs 19:15  “Slothfulness casteth into a deep sleep; and an idle soul shall suffer hunger.”

Proverbs 20:13  “Love not sleep, lest thou come to poverty; open thine eyes, and thou shalt be satisfied with bread.”

Proverbs 13:4  “The soul of the sluggard desireth, and hath nothing: but the soul of the diligent shall be made fat.”

How can I be so bold to say that laziness is sin?  Well, James 4:17 says, “Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin.”  If we are not doing what we are supposed to do, we are sinning.

In a more figurative sense, we can see the light of her candle as the Gospel.  Matthew 5:14-15  “Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hid.  (15)  Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house.”  We need to spread the Gospel into the darkness without tiring.

Your assignment for week 11:  Read Chapter 10 of The Power of a Praying Wife “His Choices”.  What touched you?  Any disagreements?  Pray that your husband will make the right choices.  Also, study and ruminate on Proverbs 31:19.


3 thoughts on ““His Purpose” and Proverbs 31:18

  1. Oh no! I just wrote a really long reply and logged in the wrong way, and the whole thing was deleted.

    I gotta get back to my sick bebe, though (yes, again.) How are yours?

    Maybe I’ll get a chance to come back later and put my two cents in again! Sheesh.

  2. 1. I think it is so neat that we are not “cookie cutter Christians.” There is one God and one Truth and it is the same God who lives in each of us, but isn’t it so neat to see his character and how he’s made us and crafted us in different ways! And what better way to help each other in a practical way than by having different strengths and interests to exhort, encourage and teach one another.
    2. In the early days of marriage it can be hard to trust God alone to do the work. We think we sometimes need to be doing more than “just praying,” but it is so awesome to see God again and again answer our prayers in transforming our husbands (and ourselves too!) and we can’t be “glory stealers” then, the glory goes all to the One who deserves it!
    This is totally a sidenote, but I’ve often wondered if sometimes the reason “mature” first is to go to our knees and fight to bring our husbands to their maturity. I’m not sure those are quite the right words, but have you ever wondered a similiar thing? It only makes sense that if the enemy is going to hold somebody back, wouldn’t the best place be to go to the rightful leader? (And our husband is the rightful leader, under Christ, of our family.)
    3. I think that is an interesting way how she describes it. I don’t know that I’ve specifically thought of it that way, but I know I can usually tell when my husband is surrendered and seeking the LORD or when he is trying to do things in his own strength and restlessness is definitely one of the outward symptoms!

  3. 4. I agree. I know some who I respect but I very much disagree with when it comes to the matter of woman teaching in many circumstances. I think to some degree this issue (being his helper, not the other way around and not separate either) is very near the center of that argument. When we are confident in a placement as wife and mother and watching Him fulfill His purposes through our husbands and knowing, whether or not anybody else does, that He has allowed us to be a part of that through our knees, chores, service, encouragement, etc is pretty great.
    5. Good, I like how she puts that. Sometimes I think it is easiest for Christians to get sidetracked by things that are GOOD but not what God is asking of us at a practical time.
    6. I think you did a great job covering the Proverb. I’m not quite sure what to make of the first phrase about our merchandise, but I think you did an excellent job talking about the gospel, rest and sluggishness. I wonder how this connects to the virgins with the oil in their lamps?

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