What is the meaning of life? Why were we put here? Solomon says, “Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man” (Ecclesiastes 12:13).
The chapter we read from The Power of a Praying Wife was “His Purpose”.
Things that touched me:
- Stormie writes, “Generally, we’re here to glorify God and do His will. How that specifically translates in our lives is unique to each of us.” We are not cookie cutter Christians who all look, smell, and behave the same way. We can fulfill our purpose in our own individual style 😉
- “A wife can’t put pressure on her husband to be something, but she can pray for him to become it. She can pray that he be molded according to God’s plan and not anyone else’s.” We’ve said it before, and I will say it again. Nagging doesn’t help anything!
- Stormie gives us some insight into how to tell if a man is fulfilling his purpose. She says, “You can always tell when a man is not living in the purpose for which God created him. You sense his unrest. You get a feeling something is not quite right, even if you can’t put your finger on what it is. When you’re around a man who is fulfilling his calling and doing what he was created to do, you’re aware of his inner direction, confidence, and deep security.” I can’t say I know too many of these men fulfilling what God wants them to do, according to this description. How about you?
- “Whatever God has called your husband to be or do, He also called you to support it and be part of it, if in no other way than to pray, encourage, and help in whatever way possible.” This is actually the reason why women were created. Back in the Garden of Eden, while considering Adam being alone, God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” (Genesis 2:18).
- In the prayer at the end of this chapter, Stormie prays, “Continue to remind him of what You’ve called him to do and don’t let him get sidetracked with things that are unessential to your purpose.” We all can be distracted by the trappings of this life. Let’s pray this for ourselves as well.
I have a true story to share related to helping your husband instead of hindering. Names have been changed to protect the innocent.
Matilda was beautiful until she got married. Before she was wed, she carried herself with grace, and she seemed very thoughtful. She had the inner beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit (1 Peter 3:4).
Admittedly, she has never been outwardly very attractive, but she took care of her modest appearance. Her hair was brushed and clean. Her clothes were not flashy but well-kept.
After being joined in matrimony, she changed. She fought against every decision her husband made. She demanded her own way.
It’s very possible that she was always this unattractive, but her bad attitude made her less beautiful. Her hair is not brushed or cleaned. Her clothes are baggy and frumpy.
The woman was/is not helping her husband’s purpose. Sadly at this point, she is dragging him down like a true ball and chain. She should embrace her purpose as his help meet.
I didn’t find anything in this chapter that I respectfully disagree with.
Proverbs 31:18 “She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.“
Hmmm, she thinks her merchandise is good, huh? She’s thinking she is hot stuff and better than all of us? Well, she may be better than all of us, but this is not what the Scripture is saying. I think she understands that her merchandise is good. She is confident that what she is doing is right.
Are you confident that what you are doing is right? Am I? How can I be sure I am doing the right thing? The most sure answer is to search the Scriptures. God’s Word is full of things we should be doing. In fact, Proverbs 31 is full of things we should be doing. If you are being obedient to God’s Word, you can be confident that what you are doing is right.
Many seem to think that a Christian woman should be meek and mild, shy, maybe a doormat. I don’t think that is what the Scriptures say at all. This woman is not cowering in the corner. She is a go getter. Her life is dedicated to her husband and family, but that does not make her of any less value. In fact, she is greatly honored and valued. Proverbs 31:10 “Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.”
Her candle doesn’t go out at night? Again, this lady shows us that she is driven and ambitious. She gets up early and stays up into the night. She will not quit until the job is done!
I don’t believe that these Scriptures should make us believe that we can never sleep, if we are a virtuous woman. Sleeping is not a sin 😉 Also, it is obvious that the Proverbs 31 woman slept some. After all she must have been in bed to rise (Prov 31:15).
Here are some verses that show that sleep can and should be appreciated:
Psalm 4:8 “I will both lay me down in peace, and sleep: for thou, LORD, only makest me dwell in safety.”
Psalm 127:1-2 “Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain. It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: for so he giveth his beloved sleep.”
Ecclesiastes 5:12 “The sleep of a labouring man is sweet, whether he eat little or much: but the abundance of the rich will not suffer him to sleep.” I find those verses quite comforting!
While sleeping is not a sin, slothfulness and laziness are.
Proverbs 19:15 “Slothfulness casteth into a deep sleep; and an idle soul shall suffer hunger.”
Proverbs 20:13 “Love not sleep, lest thou come to poverty; open thine eyes, and thou shalt be satisfied with bread.”
Proverbs 13:4 “The soul of the sluggard desireth, and hath nothing: but the soul of the diligent shall be made fat.”
How can I be so bold to say that laziness is sin? Well, James 4:17 says, “Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin.” If we are not doing what we are supposed to do, we are sinning.
In a more figurative sense, we can see the light of her candle as the Gospel. Matthew 5:14-15 “Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hid. (15) Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house.” We need to spread the Gospel into the darkness without tiring.
Your assignment for week 11: Read Chapter 10 of The Power of a Praying Wife “His Choices”. What touched you? Any disagreements? Pray that your husband will make the right choices. Also, study and ruminate on Proverbs 31:19.