Things that touched me:
- Stormie reminds us, “Isolation is not healthy. We all need the influence of good people to keep us on the right path.” Proverbs 11:14 says, “Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.” I have been blessed to be surrounded by many Godly counselors. God’s counsel is always first, but a wise word from a friend can help so much. Proverbs 25:11 says, “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.”
- Stormie writes, “The Bible says we must ‘not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers’ (2 Corinthians 6:14). This doesn’t mean we can never be around anyone who isn’t a Christian, but our closest, most influential relationships should be with people who know and love the Lord, or there will be consequences.” It’s easier for someone to bring you down than it is for you to bring them up. Just imagine yourself on higher ground and standing on a bed. Your friend of equal size is standing on the ground. It is a whole lot easier for your friend to pull you down, isn’t it?
- Stormie reminds us, “Pray that none of his relationships be marred by his inability to forgive. A husband who is tortured with unforgiveness is not a pretty sight.” Lord, give all of us a heart of forgiveness. You have forgiven us so much, we need to extend that forgiveness to others.
- In the prayer at end of the chapter, Stormie prays, “I pray that I will be counted as his best friend and that our friendship with one another will continue to grow.” I am privileged to say that my husband is my best friend! It is such an awesome gift!
Things that I respectfully disagree with
- Stormie writes, “Every married couple should have at least two strong believing couples with whom they can share encouragement, strength, and the richness of their lives.” I would never discount the value of friendship, but I disagree with the “every” and “should”. It’s not possible that every married couple have two strong believing couples as friends.
- She then contends, “Having the positive qualities of other people rub off on us is the best thing for a marriage.” Positive influences are great, but I disagree that it “is the best thing for a marriage”. I might argue that two people serving and relying on Jesus would be a better thing for a marriage.
Proverbs 31:26 “She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.”
The Bible says, “out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh” (Matthew 12:34). This woman is beautiful inside and out.
I know that my mouth often runs away with me and gets me in trouble. I pray that my heart would be full of wisdom and kindness and that my mouth would be full of those things. Oftentimes, wit and sarcasm are the excuse for unkind words. Many times these things are used to make the speaker look good and those who are spoken to look bad. Is this how we want to be perceived or how we want to use our words? Proverbs 12:18 “There is that speaketh like the piercings of a sword: but the tongue of the wise is health.” Are our words piercing or healing?
This Proverbs 31 has a lot to be boastful of, but she isn’t. She follows “the law of kindness”.
Colossians 4:6 says, “Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.” Both men and women who are followers of Christ are his bride. Our speech should reflect our Heavenly husband.
Why would it be important for this bride and all brides to be wise and kind. Well, women are called to be teachers!
Titus 2:3-5 reads, “The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; (4) That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, (5) To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”
Yes, this passage says that aged women should teach good things and teach the young women. This doesn’t mean that if you are a young woman that you shouldn’t be discipling and teaching. We are all called to make disciples. Matthew 28:19-20 says, “Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost: (20) Teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and, lo, I am with you always, even unto the end of the world. Amen.” At the very least, your children are your disciples.
I’m not exactly sure which category I fit in, so I’ll just take the young women. 😉 We, as younger women, need to be prepared to take on the capacity of teaching the younger ones as we grow older. Are we prepared to teach other women “to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed”?
It has been said that “Those who can, do; those who can’t, teach.” I don’t think this idiom applies here. You/we better be able to practice what we preach, or we will be an hypocritical teacher.
Are you feeling a lot of pressure, here? Well, take a deep breath. This Proverbs 31 woman has wisdom and speaks with kindness? Who is the only source of true wisdom? JESUS! Who is the only one who can tame our tongue? JESUS!
James 3:8 says, “But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.” If no man can tame the tongue, how is this Proverbs 31 woman able to do it? Numbers 23:19 says, “God is not a man, that he should lie; neither the son of man, that he should repent: hath he said, and shall he not do it? or hath he spoken, and shall he not make it good?” Because God is not man, He is able to tame the tongue.
Mark 12:29-31 “And Jesus answered him, The first of all the commandments is, Hear, O Israel; The Lord our God is one Lord: (30) And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment. (31) And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.”
When you love God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength and love your neighbor, the fruits will come without you trying to force them.
Through this study of the Proverbs 31 woman, I’m growing to like this lady more and more. She isn’t about legalism, as I have seen her before. She is a lady who is able to show great fruit in her life because of her great dependence on the God of the universe.
Are we/you ready to surrender your life to Jesus and see the great things that will come?
Your assignment for week 18: Read Chapter 18 of The Power of a Praying Wife “His Fatherhood”. What touched you? Any disagreements? Pray that your husband will love and guide his children well. Also, study and ruminate on Proverbs 31:27.