The chapter we read from The Power of a Praying Wife was “His Fatherhood”.
Things that touched me:
- Stormie shares how her husband was insecure in his fatherhood, but after she prayed, things changed. She writes, “He now sees that any flaw in our children is not necessarily a reflection of his value as a father.” I know that both mothers and fathers feel insecure at times and wonder if they are doing a terrible job. We may never really know the damage we have caused to our poor children. 🙂 LOL! In reality, the only thing we can do is walk in the ways Jesus has taught, train our children in Him, and leave the results up to Him. Imagine if our perfect Heavenly father was measured by how his children behaved. Many Christians are hypocrites and many fall into sin again and again. That doesn’t mean that God isn’t the greatest father!
- Stormie explains the connection that mothers feel after carrying a child inside of them and giving birth to them. She shares, “Fathers don’t have that privilege and often feel they are starting on the outside, trying to work their way in. If they are also spending a great amount of time and energy trying to establish their careers, they can easily feel hopelessly removed and ineffectual. Our prayers can help redeem this situation.” I don’t think my husband felt a lack of connection in the newborn stage because he didn’t carry the baby inside of him. He was there as my coach every step of the pregnancy and birth. On the other hand, he does feel that the connection that I have with the kids is different because I spend more time with them. It may be true, but that does not, by any means, make him an outsider or ineffectual. I pray that he feels encouraged to continue to be a strong father in our children’s lives.
- Stormie reminds us, “The best way for a man to be a good father is to get to know his heavenly Father and learn to imitate Him.” I agree. God is the best father, and even if a man had a crummy father, he can learn to follow his Abba.
- I loved the last paragraph of this chapter:
“Men don’t always realize how important they are to their children. They sometimes feel they are only there to provide materially for them. But the importance of a father’s influence can never be underestimated. How he relates to his children will shape their lives for bad or for good. It will change his life forever, too. For if he fails as a father, he will always carry that sense of failure with him. If he succeeds, there will be no greater measure of success in his life.”
I didn’t find anything that I respectfully disagree with.
Proverbs 31:27 “She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.”
What would be included in the “ways of her household”? To me that would include everything from cleaning to the concerns of each household member. From toilets to tears. Baking to bras. Windows to weddings. Cradles to cars.
How does she take care of all these things? Only with the grace of God! I know that when I’m not walking in God’s strength it doesn’t all get done! When I just give into all that God puts in front of me, more gets done than I could imagine.
It is obvious that she couldn’t be idle and get all this done!
I just have to point out that she is not look well to the ways of the world or the ways of her town or the ways of her friends. We spend too much time attending to things outside our household or being in the household but paying attention to the outside world through the internet or phone.
On a more practical note, there are ways to break down our weekly chores into manageable pieces. You can assign a room or two to each day or one area of the house (i.e. carpets). If we do one small task a day, it won’t be as overwhelming. If we do the chores regardless of company coming or not, we will always be ready for unexpected guests.
Your assignment for week 19: Read Chapter 18 of The Power of a Praying Wife “His Past”. What touched you? Any disagreements? Pray that your husband will move past anything hurtful in his history and move forward in Jesus. Also, study and ruminate on Proverbs 31:28.