Things that touched me:
- Stormie writes, “Before I was married, one of the traits I knew I wanted in a husband was an avid disinterest in sports.” I’m completely with Stormie on this! 🙂 I know that some of you might love sports, but I’m sorry that I’m not that woman. I’m blessed to have a husband who can take it or leave it. In fact, I showed more interest in the game (well the commercials really) on Super Bowl Sunday than my husband did. 🙂
- Stormie explains that her husband gained an interest in sports a few years into their marriage. She writes, “For some reason unfathomable to me, God didn’t take away my husband’s interest in sports like I prayed. Instead, He gave me peace and a new perspective on it.” This is often what God does for us when we pray. Since he’s not our genie in a bottle, he doesn’t always give us what we want. He often changes our perspective on the situation.
- Stormie reminds us to pray that major issues don’t arise in the future. She writes “From the day we were married, I prayed that there would be no divorce or adultery in our future.” This should be a prayer for all of our marriages. She further explains that divorce and adultery “had so saturated our culture and the business we were in that they were almost expected in some circles.” Don’t be naive, my dear friends. These things are common place even in the Christian world, as shameful as that is. Pornography is everywhere these days especially with the advent of handheld devices that can take the internet anywhere. If a person saturates their mind in pornography, their heart becomes dull to the existence of right and wrong. A husband of wife who has a problem with pornography can easily slip into actual cheating (not just in their mind).
- Stormie brings up back to what is important by writing, “Pray that God will make your marriage a source of joy and life to both of you, and not a drudgery, a thorn, a dread, and irritation, or a temporary condition.” Marriage was God’s idea. He wants it to be something beautiful.
I didn’t find anything that I respectfully disagree with.
Proverbs 31:30 “Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.”
This verse easily applies to both sexes. You cannot find a good husband or wife by their charm/favor or their good looks. A good husband or wife is a person who fears God.
No matter how sweet or good-looking a person is. You need a person who loves Jesus first and foremost.
Charm, sweetness, and favor can be deceitful. We all know that we put our best face forward, at least for the first few dates :). The more you get to know someone, the more their true self comes out. If their true self is not someone who loves and serves Jesus, you may find that you don’t have much in common and/or that they may be a completely different person after all.
This is the Bible’s wisdom for how to find a mate. It is short and to the point.
Know that charm or favor can extend into displays of affection and even sex. Just because someone is willing to share their body with you or because you are willing to share your body with them does not mean that makes them marriage material. In fact, if a woman or man is not willing to wait until marriage, they may (at the very least) have a serious lack of self-control. Self-control is a fruit of the Holy Spirit, and you want a spouse that is filled with the Holy Spirit before and during a marriage.
Many times a man or woman will use their charms to catch a wife or husband, but the charm is done when the marriage begins. That is the essence of deceitful!
Just because you may have found a beautiful or handsome person, does not mean you should marry them. Oftentimes, a little “eye candy” makes our hormones go wild, and we make unwise decisions. When they are old and grey, will they look that way? You need to be in love with them for the inside too. I will not deny that physical attraction is a great part of a marriage or of finding a spouse, but spiritual attraction is more important.
I have been speaking to both sides of the issue, but let’s switch to the wife’s side. Are you using your feminine wiles to deceive your man? Let your love for the Lord shine through you! Let that be what is the most beautiful part of you! Let your service to the Lord make you trustworthy. Your husband will know that you will serve Jesus even when things get hard.
Your assignment for week 23: Read Chapter 22 of The Power of a Praying Wife “His Emotions”. What touched you? Any disagreements? Pray that your husband won’t be controlled by his feelings but by the wisdom of God. Also, study and ruminate on Proverbs 31:31.