The chapter we read from The Power of a Praying Wife was “His Emotions”. This chapter had very fitting timing because the last few weeks have been spent drenched in emotion. Those emotions were not my husband’s. Some of the emotions were my own and many were those of others. It’s important for us to not allow our emotions to control our lives, but it’s so easy to drown in the sea of sorrows, doubt, anger, and the like. Stormie has some great wisdom to share on the topic.
Things that touched me:
- Stormie shares a story about a wife who was married to a man who is controlled by his anger. She gives a simple yet powerful solution. She explains what the wife did, “She prayed he would stop being controlled by his emotions, and instead be controlled by the Holy Spirit.” Emotions are like an addictive drug. They get our adrenaline pumping or bring us down into the depths of despair. You have your “uppers” and your “downers”. In the same way we don’t want to be controlled by drugs and alcohol, we don’t want to be controlled by our emotions. Ephesians 5:18 says “And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit;”
- Stormie writes, “The best gift a wife can give in secret to calm her husband’s anger is to pray for him.” Those who are controlled by their emotions can be completely frustrating to those around them. Their emotional rollercoaster just makes one want to throw up from all the drastic ups and down. Instead of giving into our own emotions of anger and frustration, let us pray for them. Luke 6:27-28 says “But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, (28) Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you.” I pray that your husband is not your enemy, but just as we should pray for our enemies, we should definitely be praying for our husbands.
- Stormie points out that even great men in the Bible, like David, dealt with overwhelming emotions. 1 Samuel 30:6 “And David was greatly distressed; for the people spake of stoning him, because the soul of all the people was grieved, every man for his sons and for his daughters: but David encouraged himself in the LORD his God.” If God was able to deliver David through his rough spots, he, of course, can deliver you or a loved one. Psalms 40:1-3 “I waited patiently for the LORD; and he inclined unto me, and heard my cry. (2) He brought me up also out of an horrible pit, out of the miry clay, and set my feet upon a rock, and established my goings. (3) And he hath put a new song in my mouth, even praise unto our God: many shall see it, and fear, and shall trust in the LORD.”
- As usual, Stormie sums things us nicely. She writes,
“Anger and depression are but two of the many negative emotions that can torment a man’s soul. Often they are only an habitual way of thinking that has been given place over time. Men tend to believe it’s part of their character that can’t be altered, but these patterns can be broken. Don’t stand by and watch your husband be manipulated by his emotions. Freedom may be just a prayer away.”
I didn’t find anything that I respectfully disagree with.
Proverbs 31:31 “Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.”
1 Timothy 5:18 “For the scripture saith, Thou shalt not muzzle the ox that treadeth out the corn. And, The labourer is worthy of his reward.” In the same way, a wife is worthy of her reward. She should be praised, honored, and rewarded for all her hard work.
Let us actually consider if we are worthy of a reward of high praise. Have we/I done all that Proverbs 31 woman has?
Notice that this time it is not her family praising her. She is of such a good reputation and praise worthy that they are praising her in the gates. Are people saying nice things about us because of all the hard work we have done?
We should also notice that this beautiful, wonderful Proverbs 31 lady is not being praised because she is a “self-promoter”. She doesn’t have to go around telling everyone how wonderful she is. Her works tell of how wonderful she is.
If you are again discouraged by her perfection, remember that God is for you and desires good things in your life. Romans 8:31-32 “What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us? (32) He that spared not his own Son, but delivered him up for us all, how shall he not with him also freely give us all things?”
Your assignment for week 24: Read Chapter 23 of The Power of a Praying Wife “His Walk”. What touched you? Any disagreements? Pray that your husband will have a strong walk with Jesus. This week ponder trusting God. What areas are the most difficult to trust God? We will be discussing this for a few weeks now that Proverbs 31 is done.