Take a Sad Song and Make it Better

Dearest Jude (Yes, I’m revealing his name because it is significant),

You are the newest part of our family.  Before I give you your birth story, let me provide some background.

When I found out that I was pregnant with you, I was overwhelmed!  The pregnancy was completely unexpected, and I didn’t know if I would be able to handle all that went with it: the midwife cost, raising an infant and a toddler, balancing responsibilities, losing my figure again.  Rest assure, God had all these things handled.  I was just revealing my lack of trust in Him.

Throughout the pregnancy, I struggled with keeping my emotions in check.  Many seemingly well-meaning people decided to share their disapproval that I was bringing a fourth baby into our family.  They were worried about money, as was I.  Did their opinion help anything?  No, it just served to make we want to hide from the world.  Just because they didn’t approve, was your little life that was growing inside of me going to go away?  No, I wanted to love you and cherish you.  They weren’t helping!

The pregnancy had some physical struggles as well.  I got the stomach flu, all while taking care of your big brother and 2 sisters.  I got a terrible cough at the same time I had spasms in my shoulder and neck.  Every time I would cough, I would get shooting pains.  I was actually grateful for a fever that came later with the cough.  The fever seemed to ease some of the neck and shoulder pain.  Your dad and I figured out later that I had a magnesium deficiency caused by the close pregnancies.  Some extra minerals helped the shoulder and neck pain to finally subside.

As we neared the end of the pregnancy, I longed to hold you in my arms and not in my belly.  The end dragged on though.  The end of your pregnancy was unlike any of the other pregnancies.  I had four false labors.  The first one I thought was real, and we even dragged the midwife over.  She was beyond gracious, and we did get a chance to make sure everything was prepared for your arrival.  The first false labor was on July 20th, close to two weeks before your earliest guessed due date.

We were ready, but you were many days away from coming.  My biggest issue with all this is that it was public knowledge that we had a false labor.  Your dad had to put a sign on his office door saying “Closed due to new baby.”  This was the beginning of my social recluse stage.  I was extremely disappointed, and I felt like I let everyone down.  I didn’t deliver the baby they were waiting for.  I didn’t want to go to church and hear another person ask where you were or why you hadn’t arrived.  I just stayed home.

As weeks passed beyond the first false labor, the annoying questions continued.  People strangely asked that we tell them when you arrived.  Really?  Were we planning on having a baby and keeping it a big secret?  NO!  They realized this, but they thought it was a nicer way to nag.  Some of the questions came with implications that I was doing the wrong thing by waiting for your arrival.  Some implied that I was doing something dangerous to you!  If I was face-to-face with these people, I was afraid I would snap, so I just stayed home.

Each day, my body prepared for your arrival with lots of Braxton-Hicks contractions and some more real contractions.  I wondered if I would be able to tell when it was real labor.  I jokingly told close friends that I wouldn’t declare it real until I was pushing.

Each day, my mind and heart grew more sad and disheartened by the fact that you hadn’t arrived.  Each morning, I woke up wondering why you hadn’t arrived in the night.

I know that one of the many reasons why you decided to stay inside mommy a little longer was that you knew that I needed by sweet midwife.  At the beginning of August, my midwife’s mother passed away, and she was dealing with grief and the arranging of her mother’s affairs.  You waited until all the affairs were in order.

On August 14, 2012 (25 days after the first false labor), we had what I thought was more false labor.  It started at about 4 in the morning.  I had a good strong contraction every 20-30 minutes, but they really didn’t get much closer together.  They were stronger than the other false labor contractions, but I still didn’t trust anything to be real.  We tried to pick things up by taking a bumpy ride, but it didn’t seem to change the contractions.

We tried to distract ourselves and enjoy the time.  Your dad took the day off of work, so I was feeling badly for that.  I decided to let everyone draw with washable markers on my belly.  I told your older brother and sisters that maybe you would want to come out to see the pretty pictures they drew.  It was a fun activity to pass some time.  We did take pictures, but there are too many stretch marks to share the pictures 🙂

As the evening came, we had to call the midwife and others to take them off the alert.  When we got to 10 p.m. that night, I had a nervous breakdown.  That’s the only thing I can think to call it.  I melted into a puddle of tears in your daddy’s arms.  I didn’t think I could take it anymore.  I told him that I couldn’t stand going to sleep one more night and waking up with no baby.  After an hour of tears, we finally laid down to sleep at 11:00 p.m.

10 minutes later, I started having a very strong contraction, and the next one came ten minutes later.  Finally, the real thing!  Your dad waited until he saw a real pattern in the contractions to call everyone that would be coming to your birth.  He called your grandma (who helps your daddy by filling up the birth tub and other details), our dear friend Hannah (who would be in charge of your brother and sisters if they woke up), the midwife, and our dear friend Lisa (who would be taking pictures).

The contractions were quite painful, and because my emotions had all unraveled, I was having a hard time dealing with them.  My body would shake with each contraction, and I was completely overwhelmed.  Of course, your wonderful dad was hugging and kissing me and telling me it was going to be alright.  I slowly got into the right mindset to start handling things better.

Your grandma and Hannah arrived first at around 12:20.  They immediately set about preparing the birth pool with water.  During a quick break from preparing the water, Hannah came to my side and said a prayer for me.  Such a precious friend!

When the water was ready, I was very ready for the water’s warm comfort and relief.  Once I was in the water, I relaxed much better during the contractions and didn’t fight against them so much.  Our dear friend Hannah put together an I-pod mix of music for the birth.  As I got in the pool, your dad turned on the music.  The water and the music helped to change the mood and relax me.

Our favorite Photog Lisa Holloway arrived at about 1 a.m.  She and I had discussed photographing a birth, when I was pregnant with your older sister, but it had to work into her busy life as the mother of 9.  The middle of the night worked!  Good timing, baby boy.  Through our friendship, I learned that Lisa would not bring judgment but rather encouragement to my birth.  She was nice enough to give up her precious sleep to provide the amazing pictures you see.  I barely knew she was there except for the noise from the shutter on her camera.

IMG_4501EditAs I labored in the pool, a lot of thoughts went through my head.  I really didn’t see the extra people who were there, but I was aware they were there.  The extra eyes brought extra pressure on me to do a good job.  Your dad says that I did just as well with the other births, but I felt a little more pressure to perform.  As the contractions came, it felt better to have your dad apply pressure to my back.

IMG_4518EditSoon, I felt the urge to push.  Your dad knew I was pushing, but he would say things like “It will be time to push soon.”  He was hiding the fact that I was pushing, because the midwife had not arrived yet.  He knew that your grandma especially wanted the midwife there. He called the midwife, and she said she was about twenty minutes away.

IMG_4519EditAs my body was pushing, my mind was debating.  “Are you sure you should be pushing?…Are you just in a hurry to get this over with?”  My mind cautioned me, but my body knew what it was doing.

With one push, I felt my water break.  The next push your head was out.  Your dad told me to stop pushing, as the cord was around your shoulders.  He quickly looped the cord off.  The next push you were born into your daddy’s hands.

IMG_4521EditThe midwife had not arrived, but your daddy was on the job!  He knew how to skillfully take care of you.  You joined the world at 1:53 a.m. on August 15, 2012.

IMG_4522EditYou can tell from the look on my face that I was ecstatic to have you in my arms!

So relieved!  I put you to my breast right away, and you took right to it!  While I was nursing you and you were wrapped in a towel, I asked, “Did we verify that it was a  boy?”  You dad said, “Oh, it’s a boy!”  Hannah laughed!

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IMG_4535Edit8x10CropThe midwife arrived 10 minutes after you were born, and she saw you happily sucking.  🙂  She said there was no need to worry about suctioning, as you were nursing so well.

IMG_4543EditThe midwife was curious to see if you showed any signs of being past due.  She quickly noticed the large amounts of vernix floating in the birth tub.  She said, “Overdue babies do not have this much vernix.”  I said the vernix looked like mozzarella cheese.  Hannah laughed.

The midwife helped me birth the placenta.  Mommy had her post-birth orange juice.

IMG_4541EditDaddy cut the cord.

IMG_4549EditThe midwife weighed you, and we found out you were 8 lb 11 oz and 22 1/4 in long.

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She checked mommy to make sure I didn’t tear, and she reported that I didn’t.  Praise Jesus!  I made it through four births without tearing!

I’m sorry that your story isn’t all puppies and rainbows, but this is the real story.  Rest assure, I love you so much!

We named you Jude.  It is the name of Jesus’ brother from the Bible, but it is also a great Beatles song.

Now that you know the story, listen carefully to the words.  They fit.

Side note:  The Olympics ended right before you were born.  Paul McCartney sang “Hey Jude” at the Opening Ceremonies!

You are my sweet Jude-jubee!  I have grown through all these struggles, and I wouldn’t trade them in for the world.  If I didn’t go through them, I wouldn’t have my precious little boy.  I can’t wait to see what other adventures your life will hold.

Love,
your mom

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Step-by-Step Cloth Diapering: Why Part 3 (potty training and cuteness)

Here are some more reasons why I chose to cloth-diaper 🙂

Reason #3: Potty-training

Potty-training can be very difficult or very quick and painless depending on the kid.  My son took a long process.  My second daughter was pretty quick to potty-train.  I can’t  tell you about the third one, because she’s too young yet.

I have read mixed reviews about whether or not cloth diapers can help to speed up potty training.  I do think that it is logical that it would help.  In a disposable, a child doesn’t feel the wetness that they would in a cloth diaper.  Understanding whether they are wet or dry has been key to my potty training success so far.

Therefore, I definitely don’t think cloth-diapering would hurt the potty-training process.  I’ll keep you posted as to whether or not it helps.

Reason #4:  Cute and Stylish

Did you know that cloth diapers have changed a ton since when your mom was doing it?  She most-likely used square cotton flats that she had to pin.  They probably were very bulky, and you had the potential of stabbing the baby with a diaper pin.

Now, cloth diapers are easier to use, and they are much cuter than the disposables.  You can get neutral colors, but you can also get girly or boyish styles.

Of course, “cuter” is more of an opinion, but I’ve added a few pictures of the style that cloth diapers can bring to your already adorable baby.

Disposable companies are trying to be more stylish these days, but they can’t compare.

I apologize that all the pictures don’t have the brand names on them, but you can clearly see Mac-a-Doodle and Zookies 🙂

Announcing a wonderful surprise from God!

Hello there, friend!  Merry Christmas! Happy Chanukah! Did you know that life is full of surprises and so is our Heavenly Father?  No matter how much we plan and scheme, things don’t always turn out that way.

I found out on November 30th that God has decided to surprise us with another baby!  I’m not that far along, and of course, we are not out of the danger zone yet.  I’ve been pregnant 3 times before, and I have no history of miscarriage.  I always announce my pregnancy earlier than many, but I’ve never been sorry about that.

I am very overwhelmed by this surprise.  My youngest is only 8 months old!  I’ve never had kids this close before, but God knows what he’s doing.  He knows I need a bigger car to fit all of the kids.  He knows that I need the money to pay for the midwife.  He knows that I just lost all my pregnancy weight and am kinda sad for the prospect of gaining it back.  He knows that children are a blessing, and sometimes blessings come at unexpected times.  He knows the space and resources that we have.  He knows that we will love and cherish this little life just as much as any of the others.

If you want to scold me for being irresponsible and having too many children, take that up with God.  I need your love and support.  Please keep our growing family in your prayers.  By the way, a boy would round off our sets nicely.  That would mean 2 boys and 2 girls.  That would work really well with the bedrooms too.  Of course, God already knows that too.

Be anticipating another beautiful home-birth story and of course, pictures of the adorable little surprise gift 🙂

My Beautiful Tie Breaker Baby :)

To my second daughter (third born),

We didn’t know if you were a boy or girl until the moment you were born!  Your brother and sister really wanted to meet you, and of course, your dad and I anxiously awaited your arrival.

Since we didn’t know what to call you, we nicknamed you “Baby Ninja”.  Why?  You were the most active of all my babies.  You kicked and moved around so much, that we decided that you must be practicing your ninja moves!

The last few months of my pregnancy with you, I was obsessed with nutrition.  I had read about how vitamin C could help keep the bag of waters intact.  My water broke before birth started with both your brother and sister, so I at an orange every morning for the last trimester.  I also only allowed myself to eat sugar and white flour once a week for the last months.

We had a lot of “false labor” with you.  I would have contractions for an hour or two, then they would go away.  My body was getting lots of practice in preparation.

We drove everyone crazy with not knowing if you were a boy or a girl, but the day finally arrived.

I was feeling pretty crampy when we went to bed about 11 on Friday.  I was waking up about every 20 minutes, and I thought it was probably just more “false labor”.  Then, I woke up around 1 a.m. on Saturday, and things kicked into gear.

Your daddy was sleeping, and he rolled over and jabbed his elbow into my stomach!  I was getting kinda irritable, and I told him that it was time to wake up and pay attention!

Contractions started at about 9 minutes apart, and they quickly progressed to 7 min, then 5.  We kinda lost track of the contractions after that.  Contractions were intense, and I had forgotten how much they hurt!

Your grandma arrived to help around 2:30 a.m, and the midwife arrived around 3:45 a.m.

Your grandma’s main job was to get the birth tub ready.  It was a difficult job because the tub was being used for the third time, it didn’t hold air very well, and the water just wouldn’t get warm enough.  I really wanted to get in the water.  Your dad and grandma finally figured out that the water heater was turned down way low.  They finally turned it up just in time for me to get in the semi-warm water.

The water helped a ton.  As soon as I was in, I had the urge to push.  Your daddy was doubting that I was ready to push, and he kept wanting the midwife to check my dilation.

She was completely wonderful and trusted me, and she told me to push when I felt ready.  I pushed once, the water broke.  I pushed again, your head came out.  The last push was your body.  When your head was out, the midwife said that you looked pretty enough to be a girl.

OH HOW WONDERFUL TO SEE MY BABY GIRL! You broke the tie, and the girls won!  You weighed 8 lb. 4 oz. and were 21 1/4 in. long.

You were born 4:25 a.m.  We had prayed that I wouldn’t hemorrhage or tear.  I didn’t do either.  In addition, I think the Vitamin-C kept the bag of waters intact!  You didn’t need to suctioned either.  You just coughed and spit up the mucous.

You were the first of our children to be born in our new house!

Your brother was all prepared to be at the birth, but it was the middle of the night.  We woke him up right after you were born.  He was so excited to meet you and be up so early in the morning.  We let your sister sleep; she doesn’t wake up so well ;).

Our dear friend who you will affectionately know as “Auntie” arrived quickly after your birth.  She was also supposed to be there for the birth, but we waited too long to call her.  She got to introduce you to your sister.  Here is the moment she met you 🙂

We are so pleased to have you as part of our family!  You are a treasure and a very sweet baby!  You are a precious gift from God!  We had a little birth-day party to celebrate your arrival.

With much love,

Your Mommy

Step-by-step Cloth Diapering: Why Part 2 (non-toxic)

I started discussing the cloth diapers, a while back, and I thought it was time to revisit the subject 🙂  Here is the second reason why I chose to cloth diaper. 

2. Non-toxic:

This is a hard subject because the real ingredients in most disposable diapers are not on the packaging and not given my the manufacturing companies.  The only disposable diapers I have found that list the ingredients are Seventh Generation.  So, I did research on the commonly accepted ingredients, and I tried to find information about any toxicity from reputable sources like the companies who make them.  The Diaper Industry Source gave the closest thing I could find to an ingredient list.

Before we delve into the toxic ingredients in disposable diapers, let’s consider the time that a child spends in diapers.  If they potty train at 3, they spend 26,280 hours in diapers!

The first commonly accepted ingredient is some sort of superabsorbent polymer which is most commonly sodium polyacrylate.  This is what the gel-like beads inside the diapers are.  It makes disposable diapers so absorbent.  There are many tests out there that show this chemical to be non-toxic and safe. So what’s the controversy about?

I found a material safety data sheet that gave some of the hazards of this material.  The data sheet is from a company called Emerging Technologies Inc. that sells superabsorbant polymer.

The hazards that they list are as follows:

Emergency Overview

Sodium polyacrylate is a white, granular, odorless polymer that yields a gel-like material with the addition of water. It is insoluble in water and causes extremely slippery conditions when wet. Although not regulated as a hazardous material, the respirable dust is potential respiratory tract irritant. The manufacturer recommends an eight-hour exposure limit of 0.05 mg/m³.

Potential Health Effects: Eyes

Dust may cause burning, drying, itching, and other discomfort, resulting in reddening of the eyes.

Potential Health Effects: Skin

Exposure to the dust, such as in manufacturing, may aggravate existing skin conditions due to drying effect.

Potential Health Effects: Ingestion

Although not a likely route of entry, tests have shown that polyacrylate absorbents are non-toxic if ingested.  However, as in any instance of non-food consumption, seek medical attention in the event of any adverse symptoms.

Potential Health Effects: Inhalation

Exposure to respirable dust may cause respiratory tract and lung irritation and may aggravate existing respiratory conditions.

The super absorbent power of disposables not only absorbs urine but also the natural oils from the baby’s skin.  You can only imagine that this would easily contribute to more diaper rashes.

Many cloth-diapering websites site a study that says that in 1985 sodium polyacrylate was removed from tampons because it was linked to Toxic Shock Syndrome.  I could not verify this.  The only sources for this information were other cloth diaper websites.  I couldn’t find the original study.  Therefore, I’m not going to say this is true or not.I was able to find some information on Web MD about a study by Rosalind Anderson, a physiologist.  The article says, “A study published in the September/October issue of the journal Archives of Environmental Health indicates that the emissions given off by some disposable diapers cause “asthma-like conditions” in mice.”  She believes that disposable diapers are linked to the rise in asthma in children.  I wasn’t able to find the original study, but at least this was not from a cloth-diapering website 🙂The next chemical of concern in disposable diapers is Dioxin.  Dioxin is considered by the World Health Organization as a “highly toxic”.  Dioxin is in all bleached paper products.  This includes coffee filters, paper towels, milk cartons, newspaper and facial tissues, and yes, disposable diapers.

Researchers in Germany have found 2,3,7,8-tetrachlorodibenzo furan (TCDF), a form of Dioxin, in disposable diapers.  I can’t read or understand German, so I wouldn’t even know if I found the original article.  A very informative article was published about the German’s findings in Science News.

So, what is so toxic about Dioxin?

According to the WHO, “Short-term exposure of humans to high levels of dioxins may result in skin lesions, such as chloracne and patchy darkening of the skin, and altered liver function. Long-term exposure is linked to impairment of the immune system, the developing nervous system, the endocrine system and reproductive functions.”

The WHO also says, “The developing fetus is most sensitive to dioxin exposure. The newborn, with rapidly developing organ systems, may also be more vulnerable to certain effects.”Tributyl-tin TBT is a chemical found in some disposable diapers.  According to Greenpeace, it can harm immune systems and hormones.

Then, there is the fragrance!  Most perfumes are made from mostly chemicals, and I have no doubt that artificial smell that disposables give off is not natural.

By using cloth diapers, I can avoid all these toxic chemicals.  Granted, some of the chemicals are stuffed away inside the diaper, but many are right on the surface.  Some disposables have even been known to give chemical burns.

Step-by-step Cloth Diapering: Step 1- Why (cost)

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Why do I cloth diaper?

My first reason is because it saves money, cash, moolah 🙂

1.  Economics:  The biggest cost with cloth diapers is the initial cost.  The initial cost can be from $300-$1,000 depending on which cloth diapers you buy. 

An extra bonus is that you can use your cloth diapers again on additional children.  The savings can go on for many years.  You can also resell used cloth diapers, although I’m not so keen on that idea.   

I’ll attempt to calculate how much an average person would spend on disposables.  Well, a baby will use between 5-12 diapers a day, and they are potty trained somewhere between 2 and 4 years old.  So, let’s average around 8 diapers a day and say the kid is potty-trained at 3.  That is a total of 8,760 diapers.

Okay then we have to decide how much our disposable diapers would cost. Wal-Mart brand Parent’s Choice diapers are $13.97 for 96 diapers (size 2 & 3). That’s about $.15 per diaper.  Pampers Baby Dry (Size 1 & 2) at Wal-Mart are $29.95 for 192.  That’s about $.16 per diaper.  So, let’s say the average price of a disposable diaper is $ .15.

So, 8760 x $.15 = $1,314   That’s a low estimate because we took the average price and also only diapered until 3 years old.  The reality is that the price goes up on the diapers the larger they are.  Our prices only went up to size 3, and your baby is bound to be larger than that! 🙂  So, let’s take that into account.  Size 3’s fit up to 28 lbs, but size 4’s start at 22 lbs.  Most kids are around 13.5 months at 22 lbs according to the CDC growth charts.  I chose the girl chart because girl’s have a tendency to stay small longer.  So, let’s recalculate a little.  🙂  8 diapers a day for the first 13.5 months = $486.  From 13.5 months to about 24 months, they can be in size 4 for our estimation purposes.  Okay, size 4 diapers in Parent’s Choice on Walmart.com are $13.97 for 82 = ~$.17  Size 4 in Pampers on Walmart.com are $35 for 156 = ~$22  So, the average price of the size 4 = ~$.20.  For 10.5 months in size 4 = $504 Then let’s say that the child stays in size 5 until they are 36 months.  Parents Choice size 5 are $13.97 for 70 = ~20.  Pampers size 5 are $34.31 for 136 = ~$.25   So, the average price for size 5 is ~$.23.  For the remaining year of diapers, let’s say the child uses size 5.  That would be $671.60. For a more accurate grand total of size newborn-3 $486 + size 4 $504 + size 5 $ 671.60 =  $1,661.60

If you only spent $300 on cloth diapers, you saved $1,331.60!  On the other hand, if you spent $1,000, you only saved $661.60.  Either way, cloth diapers are cheaper!

How much have I personally paid?  Hmmm  Well, I have been very, very blessed with kind and generous friends and family.  Most of my diapers were gifts at no cost to me!  When I have purchased them, I try to buy them at $10 or less.  From taking a quick look at my “fluff stash”, I estimate that I’ve only spent about $60!  I know, pretty good huh?

A typical load of "fluff" at my house

Of course, there are a few other costs to consider when cloth diapering.  You also need to take into account the cost of electricity, water, and detergents. 

We’ll start with water.  I’ll even calculate a few extra toilet flushes too!  I have a diaper sprayer to spray off the solids on the diaper, and then I flush the solids.  According to the USGS, one toilet flush takes 3 gallons of water.  I’ll estimate that I probably flush the toilet 4 extra times in a day to flush down the bowel movements.  So, that’s 12 gallons.  Then a load of wash takes 12.7 gallons of water.  I do about an extra 3 loads of wash a week for just the cloth diapers.  So, that would be 84 gallons.  Then 12.7 gallons x 3 loads of laundry per week = 38.1 gallons.  That’s a total of 122.1 gallons a week.  A year of diapering would equal 6,349.2 gallons.  Three years would equal 19,047.6 gallons.  According to my water bill, a gallon of water costs $.0093 a gallon.  So $177.14 for water!  Is it just me or does that not sound like very much for 3 years?

Next is electricity:  According to E-how, the electricity you use will depend on the type of washer you have and also the type of water heater.  I have a front-loader washer and a gas water-heater.  So, I pay about $.08 a load because my diapers are washed on the hot wash.  So, if I wash 4 extra loads a week that is $.32.  Three years of diapering would only equal $49.92

The last cost we need to calculate is detergent.  This cost, of course, will depend on the type of detergent you buy.  There are a few choices.  You can use any free and clear detergent or a cloth diaper detergent.  I have heard that the free and clear options end up creating a build up on the diapers, so I haven’t gone that route.  The cloth diaper detergents that I’ve used are Rockin’ Green and Charlie’s.  I’ve found that I go through about one bag of Rockin’ Green a month.  That probably means that I’m not using the right proportions because it’s supposed to last 45 loads!  Ooops!  It’s only lasting me about 16 loads.  Note to self, measure better.  Let’s estimate that you’re not so bright, like myself.  That would cost you around $15 a month.  That’s $180 a year and $540 for three years.

Okay, so let’s total up the cloth diaper cost vs. disposables:

Cloth costs:

Diapers: $300-$1000

Water:  $177.14

Electricity:  $49.92

Detergent: $540 (really this should be half this price :))

Total: $1,067.06 – $1,767.06 or with half the detergent cost $797.06 – $1,497.06

Average Disposable Cost: $1,661.06

The moral of the story is that cloth diapers, as a rule, should be much less expensive unless you spend $1,000 for the diapers and use way too much detergent! LOL! 

Also, my estimation of how much the disposables cost is very low because we did averages.  Also, the cheapest disposables often leak!  Most moms choose a different disposable brand, after they realize that the cheap ones aren’t worth the problems.

I found a cool website where you can calculate the cost of cloth vs. disposables depending on what you buy or want to buy 🙂

http://www.diaperpin.com/calculator/calculator.asp

Why I Became a Bradley® Natural Childbirth Teacher

It all started when my husband and I were engaged.  You see; he is a chiropractor.  He was going to Palmer Chiropractic College when we were engaged, and he was learning all kinds of natural ideas.  One of the ideas that he learned related to natural childbirth.  

After we were engaged, we discussed what our plans for children would be.  We discussed how many; I always thought I wanted six.  We have half that now 🙂  We discussed our child raising philosophies.   Then, he sprung a new idea on me:  natural childbirth.  He said, “When we have kids, I would like for you to give birth to them without drugs.”  WHAT!  My response was, “It’s my body, and we’ll see about this.” 

As time went by, I chewed over this thought, ruminated if you will.  I had to learn more, and I wasn’t just going to take my fiance’s word for it.  I began to amass books and literature on the subject.  The more I read, the more I was convinced that I wanted to at least give it a try. 

My mother also had a big part in why I chose the Bradley® philosophy of birth over the others.  She actually used the Bradley Method® with the birth of my brother and me (successfully I might add). 

I did all this decision-making before we were even pregnant with our first child, so when we did get pregnant, all we had to do was chose how all the details would play out.  We decided to do a homebirth, and I wasn’t about to do that until I had more education under my belt. 

We chose a Bradley® teacher, but she was almost 2 hours away from us.  We had to travel for our 12 week series, but it was worth it. 

After the birth of our son was so successful in using the method, we decided our immediate area and local county needed a natural childbirth teacher.  The rest is history!    My husband and I have been certified Bradley® instructors for almost 4 years.  We are the only Bradley® teachers in our county, and we are currently teaching our 15th series of classes.

Just so you know, each Bradley® teacher goes through intensive training and is required to re-affiliate each year.  If you want to become a student, you should know that classes run for 12 weeks and last about 2 hours each and cover almost every birth topic imagined.  If you interested in finding a Bradley® teacher in your area or want to find out more about the Bradley Method® visit www.bradleybirth.com